Unexpected Employment Interuption

Darcy O'Neil
April 14, 2007 9:52 PM

bartendingWell, in an interesting turn of events I am no longer working behind the bar at the restaurant, which I now refuse to mention. When I went into work on Thursday I discovered that the manager had replaced me. Really, it isn’t a bad thing, since I hadn’t really enjoyed working there since last October (2006). But, I did enjoy the guests, and the staff. The kitchen staff were by far the best crew that I ever had the opportunity to work with, true professionals. But on an interesting side note, the Chef handed in his resignation a week before I was let go. That might give you a little insight. This post is long, and I haven’t proof read it, so excuse the errors.

I’ve always been a professional in every job I’ve worked. I was lucky that when I was 15, and had my first real job (grounds keepers assistance), I worked for my Uncle Jim who showed me what work was. He would intentionally give me “interesting” jobs, like squirming under trailers to look for snakes, because some old lady thought she saw one. There were no snakes, but a hell of a lot of spiders. Then he’d make me dig a ditch for telephone cables and tell me a little girl could do a better job. But it worked, I’d get pissed off and show him up. Of course he patted me on the back and said I did a great job, buy me Coke and let me take the last hour of the day off. Fun times.

Once I got into the real world, I always showed up on time, almost never called in sick and absolutely never missed a day because I had a hangover. Mind you, there were some really, really rough days (19th, 21st and 22nd birthday come to mind, which never fell on weekends), but I’d tough it out. One time, when I was working as a cashier, with a bad hangover, I checked a customer through and then ten minutes later he came back and said I need this, and he handed me a coffee. He said I looked a little “green around the gills”. But at least I showed up to work.

When I started working at Chinook Chemical and then Imperial Oil Research I loved my jobs and my bosses were great (Mohammed M., Gerry M. and Doug H.) . They would expect good work, but would always recognize it and show some level of appreciation. They showed flexibility and were always able to resolve issues with a few words. They never berated or embarrassed   people. In return I worked as best as I could and tried to leave every place I worked a little better then when I arrived.

Then I came to London, Ontario. I like this city but in the six years I’ve worked here, I have yet to find a decent manager. I’ve met some great people, but I still haven’t been able to reproduce that state of blissful happiness that I once had. I know when I worked at Imperial Oil, there were times I wasn’t happy, but I know there were more times that I laughed so much with my co-workers (Mike & Byron in particular) that it hurt. Good management seemed encourage that sense of comradery.

In particular, I find the Food & Beverage industry to be seriously lacking in professional management skills. Now I’m not saying they don’t exist, I’m just saying I haven’t found those people yet. What would be considered grounds for dismissal at my chemistry jobs, is now common place and accepted as normal. Sexual harassment, theft, intoxication, intimidation, fraud and major labour code violations are all common place. Usually management is doing these things or turning a blind eye.

My problem is that I entered this business after about 10 years of working for businesses that had a code of conduct. Now I’m in this world of freestyle, “rules, we don’t need no stinking rules” type management and it puts me in an awkward situation. I still think I work at a place with a code of conduct, but that seems to rub management the wrong way.

Now let me reiterate; I work hard and I like the satisfaction of doing a good job, be it solving a multi-million dollar problem at a refinery or making a perfect Mai Tai. But, I won’t put up with stupidity, rude behavior, illegal activity or any form of harassment, be it from a fellow employee or management. If you do any of the above, I’ll usually politely call you on it. This never, ever sits well with managers in the Food & Beverage industry. Ever!

You see, most of these business are small business to medium size businesses that have had to do everything possible to compete in this very competitive business. They’ll cut corners to save a few nickels, treat employee like crap and tell them that if they don’t comply they’ll be fired and drinking on the job seems way to commonplace now. I find most employee don’t stand up and say anything, they just allow this stuff to happen, which re-enforces this evil behavior from managers.

Actually, I must admit that for the past few months I’ve just put up with most of this crappy behavior, even though I didn’t put up with all of it. For example, the restaurant I just parted ways with, the manager required that all servers and bartenders pay out 3% of their total sales to the house from their tips. So if I sold $1000, I had to pay $30 for the privilege of working there. If I earned 12% in tips, it was now effectively 9%. And yes that is 100% illegal. If a business wants to make 3% more, they need to do it on their own, not steal from employees.

The other thing I do is always try to improve things. Making a better cocktail or figuring out a better way of doing things is common with me. For me it’s a science thing, because that’s what scientists do, figure out how the world works and use it too our advantage. But the manager at this restaurant didn’t seem to appreciate this. There were at least three ways of doing things, all his way, and they changed depending on how many drinks he had that evening. Of course if you did it the “wrong way” he’d berate and embarrass you in-front of everyone. The guy was a screamer.

There wasn’t much opportunity for doing things my way, even being left handed seemed to irritate him (I put things on the wrong side). Dam cack-handed, leftist, with his sinister placement of items. Only 10% of the population will understand that line.

Another example is the dilemma of powdered sour mix. I loathe the stuff, who really wants lime flavoured koolaid in their drink, aside from maybe a 19 (or 21) year old who doesn’t know any better. But this was fine dining and he thought sour mix was fine, I didn’t, and held my ground. One time he asked me why everyone liked my Mojito’s, but not his sour mix ones, so I told him that I used fresh limes. He snapped at me. Actually he snapped at me a lot.

When I first started, I designed a cocktail menu with his full on approval. I spent lots of unpaid time working on it, designing it, researching it, and actually making the drinks at home. He had it printed and once the restaurant opened, he said he wanted to wait for a bit until things settled down before he handed it out, which sounded reasonable. On a few occasions I handed it out to people at the bar, after the second seating and they loved it.

A few months later, the cocktail menu still wasn’t being handed out. Then one night somebody, ordered a classic Singapore Sling (2oz) and I made it. When he found out he flipped out because of the price ($8.50 CDN $7US or less because of taxes), which he approved. Not because the customer said anything, he just assumed they wouldn’t like the price. Mind you he charged $12 for a Grey Goose Martini. I was then informed that the cocktail menu’s were going to be thrown out. That’s when things started going down hill.

I’m not going to rehash all the problems, but there was an incident a week before my dismissal that I found odd. On the Wednesday the local newspaper (London Free Press) interviewed me about bartending and Tales of the Cocktail. They asked good questions and of course they wanted to know where I worked and I told them. They asked if they could get a picture of me behind the bar. I didn’t figure that was a problem, I think most businesses want free publicity, especially when it is for genuinely good reasons. When I came to work on Thursday and told the manager, he wasn’t too happy about it and told me, in a not too pleasant way, that anything written about the restaurant needed to be cleared by him, effectively giving him editorial control. Well, the options in my opinion are you can have your restaurant mention or not, you don’t need to get angry about it. Anyway, he sent me home five minutes after I arrived. He also got my name wrong three times, so I corrected him, but that didn’t help and just added fuel to the fire. Just show me some respect and get my name right, I’ve only worked there for eight months! The worst part is when I told him that I was going to Tales of the Cocktail, a few months prior, he told me I could mention being the “head bartender”, which were his exact words. Again, things changed frequently.

The following week, I had been replaced. I received no notice and no compensation which really pissed me off, and I told him so in a not so friendly way. Luckily I still work part time at Robart’s Research Institute so I’m not completely unemployed. But I hate the disrespect. I hate the fact that this guy knows I have a 2 month old baby and he couldn’t care less. At least a few weeks notice would give me some time to find a job. This is one of the biggest problems with this industry, people are treated like dirt.

So anyway, it’s time to update my resume and think about what I want to do. The lure of the chemistry world is strong and I’d be successful at it, but I don’t want to give up everything I’ve worked for in the bartending world either. Having my own bar would be fun, but I don’t have the money. I like to write, but it doesn’t pay much, at least not blogging. Let see where this goes.


23 Comments on Unexpected Employment Interuption

Best of luck, mate. I'm positive your passion for respecting the drink will get you into a better place soon enough.

That's rough, Darcy -- I'm sorry to hear that. But with your talent and perseverance, I'm sure things will work out soon, and much for the better.

Take care--

Darcy, man, I'm sorry for the situation. I agree that a lot of restaurant managers are frustrated and power hungry. Fortunately, they're not all like that. In a professional environment, they respect you and treat you fairly. They have to because you are the draw...the talent. I hope that you can find a better position. I would hate for you to have to leave the profession because of a few idiots. By the way, do the owners know that they have idiot management?
Best of Luck!

Sorry to hear about your situation, but it sounds like this will turn out for the better once a bar manager who knows a little something about cocktails snaps you up. Good luck!

Damn, and here I was going to check out that place because they had a bartender who knows what he's talking about. I'm sure you'll find something that fits you better, or at least isn't filled with assholes.

Sometimes it seems like managers are only managers because they are the only ones who wanted the job, rather than that they are the most capable.

I hate stupidity too, but it is everywhere.

Good luck with the job hunt!

Hello!
I have so enjoyed reading and sharing your posts with family!
My Dad was a bartender in his youth and my brother in law also bartended when dating my sister.

Good Luck!
m

***welcome in the fantastic world of hospitality industry***

I am really sorry for you, that it went so wrong in your job! I had it also a couple times, that my employer were quite incompetent - working since a quite long time in hotels makes it better - the money is not as good as in smaller businesses - but you are more or less secure.

I definitely wish you all the best!

Hey dude, that sucks - I can totally relate to your situation. Why don't u report him if he's doing things that are illegal? A bit of retribution never hurt anyone ... :-)

Darcy. You will truly be missed. And just know what goes around comes around. Thanks for the comment about being true professionals, I think the same about you.

We have complimentary problems, it seems. Out of all the staff that have left their jobs since my bar opened last june, maybe 10% of them gave me even an hour's notice, the rest not only failed to tell me they weren't coming in, but they ignored any attempt to contact them and engage in rational discourse. The ones i've had to let go, when i did give advanced notice, either walked out immediately or became lame ducks with a destructive "what are you gonna do, fire me?" attitude. Either way, if my bar weren't tiny, 2000 miles away, and visited almost exclusively by patrons who don't believe there's such a thing as a sipping whiskey (or rum, or gin, or vodka), and that every drink recipe is as easy as "Mix three shots of well liquor with some kind of juice", then i'd offer you a position now. My advice is to head to a big resort town with fierce competition in the hospitality field. Las Vegas comes to mind first, but i'm sure there's a scaled down paradise somewhere much closer to you. In those places, talent is at a premium and so is the money. Without amazing bartenders, those multimillion dollar bars lose out to the ones that did hire great bartenders, and if you know a little flair, or are willing to learn, you might find yourself sitting at the head of the pack. Best of luck to you.

Hey Darcy - Sorry to hear about your situation, but I can't say that any of it surprises me. This type of behavior seems pretty par for the course in our industry. It's the one big drawback that nobody seems to talk much about. I'm actually between gigs right now because of a somewhat similar situation and feeling pretty sick of the industry - but i LOVE mixing drinks and being a bartender. So what are you gonna do.

And responding to Michael, I totally see your perspective on it, too. A lot of bartenders/waiters, etc gravitate to the business because you can make fairly easy cash without a lot of commitment.I think this lack of commitment sets up a somewhat adversarial type of relationship between the workers and the management. Based on my experience anyway.

Throw stress, alcohol and late nights into the mix and you've got a recipe for chaos.

Darcy, sorry to hear about all this. I've also worked with poor/ nonexistent management, and it's a recipe for frustration.

You're obviously a top-shelf bartender, so I know you'll find a place where your skills & talents will be appreciated. Please keep us posted and good luck!

Oh, that sucks! I'm sorry you had to put up with that asshat, and sorry he was too stupid to keep good talent. Hopefully you get a far better gig soon, you certainly deserve it. You consistently write one of my favorite cocktail blogs around. Best of luck to you!

Being a young gun and holding down a lot of different jobs, I totally feel your pain. I used to cashier and serve in the hospitality industry (because face it- which other industry hires when you're close to finishing high school?). I thought finally finding work in an industry that I love and am going to school for would take me away from crappy past work experience. It's funny how some companies still short-change their employees, treat them disrespectfully, and not appreciate the effort or extra work done without monetary compensation.
Having parents who had their own small cafe, I learned that even though they didn't have a lot of money to throw around, they kept treating their employees with respect, thanking them, and always finding a way to make them feel appreciated for being a good and loyal worker.
And to wonder why so many people are quiting their jobs, and are willing to work for a little less of a paycheck is because of their environment, co-workers, and especially management.
Thanks for posting your blog entry- it brings back a lot of memories of poor management.

I don't know you, but I learned most of what I know from you. There's no decent place in this world that couldn't appreciate what you do, and how well you do it. Your Mission: Find it. The world of Spirits would be a much lesser place if your talents weren't available. Take care.

Thanks Darcy,I just relived the last 8 months.Sorry that you are gone. Hope you go somewhere and get the respect you deserve.

Darcy,

Sorry to hear about your recent career travails.

Really does suck that this sort of stuff is allowed, and even encouraged, in some restaurants and bars. Sounds like you're better off, being out of there.

I've had a range of experiences in both Information Technology and Food Service. Sucky IT jobs and management were especially prevalent during the dotcom boom and bust cycle here in San Francisco. The best job environment I've ever worked in, remains a small Italian restaurant I worked for in the early 90s. The chef and owners were the most decent and honest people I've ever worked for. The environment was the most open, rewarding and fun. I compare every job I've had since, to that measure, and few even come close.

Wish you all the best!

So sorry, Darcy, for what happened to you. This doesn't help you, but reading your story makes me very thankful for the really great boss I have. And let me echo what Ryptide said. The Art of Drink has been a huge help to me in this, my first bartending job. Sure, I read other bartending and cocktail sites, but I always read yours first. Anyway, you will do more than just land on your feet from this. You will hit the ground running toward something much better.

See what happens when you mix alcohol at work?

Darcy, that totally sucks. I think any bar would be lucky to have you--and I wished you lived closer to San Francisco, because I'd go for a drink at your bar anytime!

Sorry to hear it. You and Adam were the two reasons that "the resaurant" was my London fave. For what it's worth, I don't believe I've ever met a more talented bartender. I doubt you'll have any trouble finding new employment.

Greetings sir! I have just been fired from the same resto-bar? without any notice(just one week shy of the 3-month period, where I would've been required to be paid compensation). The reason for me being fired was "we dont see eye to eye". Completely devoid of the fact that i work at fanshawe college and was the only papered chef there at the time. The most insulting part is that the manager himself wouldn't fire me, he had the chef do it!
I heard about you and decided to search your archives for this article, just so i dont feel so alone. I've worked in over a dozen restaurants in the past nine years, I've worked with a lot of incompetent people, yet this particular manager was out to lunch on the entire industry. I've never met someone with so little knowledge of this industry, being completely incapable of allowing any creativity, passion or even simple decision-making from his staff.
I'm truly sorry ranting, but i needed to get this off my chest, I do hope to work with you someday.

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